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Ever feel like this? The often cited definition of crazy is “ to continue to do the same thing and expect a different outcome. ” The wise folks in recovery say, “ if nothing changes, nothing changes .” In therapy circles, it is known as “ Analysis Paralysis. ” One of my daughters was talking to me a

I almost didn’t get out of bed this particular Sunday. I had been to the theatre and then out late, dancing and drinking. I wasn’t particularly fond of the sermons of the priest who would be preaching the next day. I lay in bed arguing with myself about whether or not to get up and go to church. Fin

(This is how I imagined myself.) “Tell me a fun fact about you.” I don’t know when or in what context this question first got my attention; but I began to use it in group presentations in which I needed to get a group working together and sharing personal things. It seemed easier for folks to genera

Ballet class was one of my favorite activities as a young girl. Until Christina arrived. Christina, (fifty years later I still remember her name which is telling) was a tall, long-legged, short waisted girl with a Swedish mother who watched our class through the one-way mirror. She was blonde and bl

This was the view on Tues. night and Wed. morning.... I took work (grading) with me and parked myself with this view. The grading went well with no distractions. Afterwards, another long walk and then a top-down, sunny ride home with the music playing. As a last act of changing my scenery and quite

This is not the typical scenery where I live and work. I thought I'd share a bit of Monday and Tuesday's change of scenery: [caption id="attachment_1065" align="aligncenter" width="300"] This was where I drank my coffee each morning.[/caption] Then I went for a 2 1/2 hour walk: [caption id="attachme

Spring Break couldn’t come too soon. I’m exhausted. The fun part of teaching for me is working to keep my student’s distracted attention with a personal glance at my quirkiness. I’ve been completely transparent with them about my joy in having days off—whether in the form of 3 day weekends, prayers

I’m pacing around my kitchen wondering how I can make my point without overselling impulsivity or poor decision making. I think it needs to begin with the caveat to first read last week’s blog ( Just Say No ) on boundaries. That said, Just Say Yes is about a philosophy of being open to experiences a

“If you can’t say “no”, your “yes” means nothing.” One of the hallmarks of healthy relationships is healthy boundaries. This is true for relationships with your children, your parents, your co-workers, your boss, and your friends. But in terms of your love relationships, what does the word boundarie

“We’ve got to talk.” Did your heart just jump? While it sounds innocuous, this is the statement that shuts down a conversation and often signals there is a big problem. It’s kind of like being summoned to the principal’s office for many people. Believe it or not, there are even worse ways to start a