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Ok Folks: It is Valentine’s week. Perhaps the most anticipated and dreaded week of a couple’s year. Women , are you dropping hints like, “You better remember to make reservations somewhere?” Or, “I saw a beautiful pair of earrings at my favorite store?” Men , are you walking around with a tight ches

Long, long ago, in the early months of our marriage, Saturday mornings were tense with disagreements about how we were going to spend our time. Were we going to work first (my German Lutheran heritage) or were we going to play first (my husband’s Latin, free-spirited background.) It was an early pow

Today is my older brother’s birthday. He would be 59 but he died just over four years ago. Tomorrow is the nineteenth anniversary of my sweet cousin’s tragic death at 27 years old. I’ve just pulled out of a year-long, low-level fog following a cherished colleague’s sudden and untimely death at 45 ju

  “So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because perfection is not only the enemy of the good, it is the enemy of the realistic, the possible, and the fun.” Rebecca Solnit-writer “The tyranny of the should.” You know how sometimes you are listening to the radio or a

“I don’t want to sound combative or anything, BUT ….” Well then, don’t . “Of course, it’s not anything about you, BUT….” Then what is it about? This young student had no idea how he sounded. But it was clear to me. His non-verbal communication and his disclaimers did nothing to soften his criticisms

    "There is no coming to consciousness without pain." Carl Jung   I am a mind-body-spirit kind of thinker. More than just a philosophy, I know through personal experience and the sacred work done by and with my clients, that the mind-body-spirit connection is a truth. If you have re

This week it became official: Mother Teresa of Calcutta, founder of the Order of the Missionaries of Charity, will become canonized as a Catholic Saint in September 2016. One cannot think of Mother Teresa without the thought that she dedicated her life to making the world a better place. As we pass

  Joy is never in our power and pleasure often is. ~C.S. Lewis Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day. ~Henri Nouwen Several years ago on a drive to the mountains of NC, I heard a phrase on the radio that broke through to my awareness so starkly t

Excess: Let’s talk about excess since it’s the holiday season. As I mulled what I might write this week, the morning news shows were reporting on a woman in the UK with a tree that looked like this: I don’t think anyone would disagree that, unless she is supplying Christmas presents to an entire orp