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Last week, I was in the grocery store and found myself quite surprised and feeling discouraged at the number of shoppers without masks—particularly those who were elderly and obviously rather frail. As Covid numbers rise, I am shocked that some people are in denial about the numbers. As a psychologi

Ring the bells you still can ring; forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything; that's how the light gets in. Leonard Cohen A Story About Cracks and Flaws Let me tell you an ancient story about cracks and flaws. It is about a girl whose morning chore was to walk to the river and fet

Have you ever heard a piece of music that made you cry? I find myself completely inspired by music and those who produce it in any way. Music is the universal language. There is not a culture in existence that does not make music in some way.

In my community we spend most of our time doing three things: preparing for rituals, participating in rituals, and recovering from rituals. —Malidoma Patrice Some' If you have been my friend, client, or colleague; if you have read either of my books; if you have been close to my extended family; if

The pandemic left so many of us hungry for touch. I felt grateful to be partnered during this time yet I still missed long hugs with others—my daughters, my mother, my friends. Post-vaccination, I found myself initially “forgetting” to hug. Or successfully retrained NOT to hug.

The best things carried to excess are wrong. –Charles Churchill (18 th century satirist) Minimalism is a tool to eliminate life’s excess, focus on the essentials, and find happiness, fulfillment, and freedom. –Joshua Fields Millman (co-founder of the Minimalists.com ) Confession: I might have a shoe

I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect with another person is to listen. Just listen. —Rachel Naomi Remen in Kitchen Table Wisdom It is an act of service to listen generously to another human. In the world of spiritual direction, we call this contemplative listening. This is not a

It’s not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are . –Roy E. Disney I stopped living according to my core values. I knew what I was doing was wrong but thought only about myself and thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. –Tiger Woods Core Values Want to choose a career o

What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything…. Fall in Love, stay in love, and it will decide everything. — Fr. Pedro Arrupe The skill of “falling in love” may seem like a weird way to start a new year of blogs. Stay with me for a minute and I think you will unders

In education, we expect our kids to learn by holding on to the lessons as they move forward. To put it more directly, a psychologist from Wyoming once said, “Learn your lessons as they arrive or they will show up in tomorrow morning’s biscuits.” Personally, I would rather make the effort to really i