Amy Sander Montanez

M.Ed., D.Min., LMFT, LPC, Life Coach

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Year 2020, Skill #11: Play Like It's Your Last Game

I held a moment in my hand, Brilliant as a star, Fragile as a flower, A tiny sliver of one hour. I dropped it carelessly. Oh God! I knew not I held opportunity . -Hazel Lee, What Might Have Been Carpe diem. - Horace, Odes Play like it's your last game Sound like a corny country song, huh? Before you

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Year 2020, Skill #10: Pivot

Stefano Placidi and Jamie Barrett of Elite Ballroom Academy, Columbia, SC   “To everything, turn, turn, turn, there is a season, turn, turn, turn, and a time for every purpose under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3 – also, the Byrds “Everything has its season. Everything has its time. Show me a reason a

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Year 2020, Skill #9: Enjoy Your Time

You can't save time, you can only spend it. But you can spend it wisely or foolishly. --Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh How did it get so late so soon? It's night before it's afternoon. December is here before it's June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon ? ― Dr. Seuss

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Year 2020, Skill #8: Take Inventory

“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves” —Step 4 of the Twelve Steps “If inside you have the bitterness of jealousy, or a selfish ambition, never make any false claims for yourself or cover up any truth with lies.” —James 3:14 I knew it was time to take an inventory last week whe

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Year 2020, Skill #7: Hold the Paradox

Paradoxes are the only truths. --George Bernard Shaw How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress. --Niels Bohr Twice this week, friends have mentioned the Stockdale Paradox. If you’re not familiar with the story, it was coined by author, Jim Collins, in hi

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Series On Hope #1: Defining Hope

Everything that is done in this world is done by hope . —Martin Luther King May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. —Nelson Mandela O God, let something essential happen to me, something more than interesting, or entertaining, or thoughtful. —Ted Loder, Guerrillas of Grace Hope —the wor

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Year 2020, Skill #5: Offer Grace

But as you excel in everything–in faith, in speech, in knowledge, in all earnestness, and in our love for you— see that you excel in this act of grace as well . --2 Corinthians 8:7 Grace is not part of consciousness; it is the amount of light in our souls, not knowledge nor reason . --Pope Francis W

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Year 2020, Skill #4: Feel, Name, and Tame The Grief

"No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear." — C.S.Lewis "Normality is a paved road; it is comfortable to walk but no flowers grow." —Vincent Van Gogh That weird feeling you have right about now. It could be grief. The bodily sensation of spinning and disorientation, the ground feeling a

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Year 2020, Skill #3: Embrace Uncertainty and Failure

You create your life, and you can recreate it, too. In times of economic downturn and uncertainty, it's more important than ever to look deep inside yourself to fathom the sort of life you really want to lead and the talents and passions that can make that possible. -Sir Kenneth Robinson If you're f

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Year 2020, Skill #2: Make Meaning of These Messy Times

“ Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” Anais Nin “Of course! The path to heaven Doesn’t lie down in flat miles. It’s in the imagination with which you perceive the world.” The Swan, Mary Oliver   Everything Happens For A Reason: ( And Other Lies I Loved), is the title of Kat

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