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Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 12/6/2011 3:47 PM “ Guys. How do you get your girl back when you are separated?” “ Go to therapy!” I blurted out. Everyone in the class laughed. Many of them know what I do for a living. “That’s probably a good idea. But in ballroom dancing, how do you ge

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 8/21/2012 2:44 PM Just before my mother died in 2001, she gave me a big plastic box filled with slides and pictures. She said there was no order to the pictures but she wanted someone to have them and to try to make some kind of order out of them. She ele

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 6/21/2011 3:04 PM June 13, 2011 Two weeks ago I promised to get back to the idea of belonging to community. People ask me frequently about the risks and rewards of community, and I think the best way to address this is to write first about stages of commu

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 11/14/2011 11:58 AM As a very young therapist in the 1980’s, I was privileged to study and train with several of the master therapists of the time. Sometimes I would get to watch one of them work live with a family or couple. Sometimes there were lectures

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 3/23/2014 3:29 PM Picture yourself on a continuum. On the far left is a state of self-contempt. You do not have an accurate self-image. You do not believe you are enough: good enough, smart enough, worthy enough, pretty enough, rich enough, whatever enoug

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 9/16/2012 7:40 PM “ I missed you. I am glad you’re back.” I heard these words a few times when I returned from a recent vacation. I have probably heard them before, but this time I really heard them, and I paid attention to them in a new way. Why did I he

April 21, 2014 What could the Great Fifty Days of Easter, Mother's Day, and commencement exercises have it common? At first glance, not much. One is a season of the Christian liturgical church year, one is a Hallmark Holiday, and the last one is in some ways an initiation into another developmental

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 11/13/2013 4:55 PM   Forgive me, dear Reader, for the recent lapse in my blog writing. I have been busy getting my book published, (which it is) and getting it launched (which is happening this very month. Please visit www.amysandermontanez.com for m

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 4/11/2013 7:34 AM Kelly Rae Roberts ( www.kellyraeroberts.com ) is a social worker turned artist and writer. I am attracted to her art and follow her blog because they speak to the truth, beauty, and potential in all of us. Like another of my favorite hea

February 13, 2014 Did you grow up, like I did, hearing The Golden Rule espoused as the litmus test of moral living? Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. This is a universal moral code, found in the scripture of every great religion of the world. It is a helpful rule, a guiding princi