Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 1/16/2012 6:31 PM | Add Comment January 3, 2012 It’s that time of year.  Every where we turn there is another “top ten” list.  From the ever-present and redundant “top ten ways to lose weight this year” (the list is the same as the last ten years, in case you were…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 1/3/2012 8:25 AM | Add Comment I am lying on the table at my massage therapist’s office. He also happens to be an energy worker.  By this I mean he is trained, gifted, and skilled at following the body’s energy patterns and seeing where energy is blocked or out of kilter. …

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 12/19/2011 8:52 PM | Add Comment I love the four seasons because I am a person who changes with the seasons.  There are wines I drink only when it is hot and I can sit on my screened-in porch with the ceiling fan running, looking out at my garden.  Those wines…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 12/6/2011 3:47 PM | Add Comment “ Guys.  How do you get your girl back when you are separated?” “ Go to therapy!” I blurted out.  Everyone in the class laughed.  Many of them know what I do for a living. “That’s probably a good idea. But in ballroom dancing, how…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 11/14/2011 11:58 AM | Add Comment As a very young therapist in the 1980’s, I was privileged to study and train with several of the master therapists of the time.  Sometimes I would get to watch one of them work live with a family or couple.  Sometimes there were lectures.  Once…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 10/24/2011 11:01 AM | Add Comment Well, the first blog about guilt and shame got people talking!  Several friends and colleagues even called wanting to talk more about this whole issue! The most common question that was raised was whether there was such a thing as unhealthy guilt.  I’m not sure…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 10/11/2011 7:52 AM | Add Comment Now here’s a topic that might need a few weeks of writing to deal with adequately!  However, several readers have asked that I address this topic, so here goes. In very abbreviated versions, here are some working definitions of guilt and shame. Guilt is the…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 9/26/2011 1:04 PM | Add Comment I don’t know when or how it happened, but sometime last week I injured my foot.  It could have been in yoga class, although I didn’t notice anything until about four hours later.  Running up and down the stairs at the office became more difficult…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 9/12/2011 11:18 AM | Add Comment My daughter evacuated NYC Friday evening, along with several million others.  She had received a phone call earlier in the day from a friend’s mother.  “ Sweetie, this is your Mama Shirley.  Now I want you to get on a train and come up here…

Posted by AmySanderMontanez at 8/30/2011 1:30 PM | Add Comment August 16th, 2011 “Tell me about this family.” This is often the opening line in a family therapy session.  I learned it from the masters in the field. “Tell me about this family.” What usually follows is someone starts talking about someone else, usually the…